Know what you’re trying to accomplish, and what you’re what results you’re trying to see. And looking at them. And this is critical ** without judgment. **. None of these things are a referendum on who you are as a person. These are simply you’re taking an action and there is a result. If you want a different result, you can take a different action.
So, the first step towards awareness is divorcing the judgment from the awareness because too often when we become aware of something isn’t working, we tend say “I am a failure” (listen at 15:08 for an analogy about a child with a boo-boo….)
If we don’t know where it hurts….if we don’t know what the ‘thing’ is to fix …. we might judge ourselves – We need to look at what those ‘symptoms’ are telling you. If you accept that it’s not a value judgment on yourself, it becomes less scary to be aware of the things that you want to that you want to change.
(16:30) Regarding Minessa’s growth in her business…..
Over the years, I did activities over and over and over again. And each time I did it, I’m like, I didn’t like the way that I can fix this. I can change that.
Think of your business activities as an experiment. Instead of thinking of things as working and not working, you start thinking okay, I can improve that I can improve that. I don’t want to do that. That’s taking up too much time. And now you’re putting yourself in a position of power as as opposed to a position of victimhood when it’s not working. Saying “What can I do to change this?”, you’re empowered.
You’ve got to show up in whatever way you can for the people who you’re meant to work with. And if you’re feeling uncomfortable with that, understand you’re feeling uncomfortable with that. Sit in that discomfort. But you’ve got to get over your badass self. This is your ego, telling you to stay safe, but that’s not serving you and it’s not serving the people you’re here to serve.